In a now viral video, child-free advocate and lifestyle influencer Sade Sellers opens up about the unexpected downside of not having kids: the lack of respect for her time and boundaries. Contrary to common assumptions of loneliness or end-of-life care concerns, Sellers highlights how society often perceives child-free individuals as having unlimited availability, leading to unfair expectations to cover for colleagues with children without additional compensation.
She emphasizes the importance of respecting her choice and time, challenging the notion that child-free people should bear extra burdens. Many in the child-free community resonate with her sentiments, pointing out the unrealistic expectations placed upon them. With financial freedom and personal goals becoming more significant for younger generations, Sellers' message underscores a shifting perspective on traditional family roles and priorities.
She emphasizes the importance of respecting her choice and time, challenging the notion that child-free people should bear extra burdens. Many in the child-free community resonate with her sentiments, pointing out the unrealistic expectations placed upon them. With financial freedom and personal goals becoming more significant for younger generations, Sellers' message underscores a shifting perspective on traditional family roles and priorities.
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00:00In a now-viral video, a child-free woman opens up about an unexpected downside of not having kids,
00:05and it's not what you think.
00:07To me, there's only one major downside of not having kids, and no, it has nothing to do with
00:11a nursing home or being a lonely cat woman, is that people don't take you seriously.
00:16Sade Sellers, a child-free advocate and lifestyle influencer,
00:20recently revealed how society often perceives child-free individuals as having no responsibilities,
00:26leading to the expectation that those without children should
00:29freely give their time to those who choose to have kids.
00:32What happens is we get the brunt of the work when we don't want it, and we don't get twice the pay,
00:36and we're just supposed to be understanding, like, well, she went on a maternity leave.
00:39That was her choice.
00:41For Sade, she feels it's about respect for her time and boundaries around her conscious choice
00:45not to have children.
00:47For me, there was a reason why I didn't have children.
00:49It was to make sure my free time was for me not to do your job and my job.
00:52Many in the child-free community share Sade's sentiment with one TikTok user writing,
00:57"'So many parents expect a village without contributing to the village
01:01themselves or asking if people even want to be a part of their village."
01:04While another stated,
01:06"'People don't think you have financial struggles.
01:08They don't think you get sad, busy, overwhelmed.
01:11They assume you have unlimited energy and time.'"
01:14According to a recent MassMutual survey, around 23 percent of adults age 18 to 43
01:19cited two main financial reasons for choosing to remain childless.
01:22The financial freedom they gain from not having children,
01:25and concerns about their ability to afford raising kids.
01:28The Minnesota Daily shared their opinion on why Gen Z is not having children writing,
01:32"'The societal pressures toward starting a family and pursuing the so-called standard
01:37path of living have become less of a concern.
01:40Instead, personal goals are now at the forefront of many minds.'"
01:43It seems in a world where financial strain,
01:46climate concerns, and personal freedom are top priorities,
01:49having children isn't the obvious choice anymore.
01:52And for Sade Sellers, her time is her main priority.
01:55Your choice to have a child is not my responsibility. Ever.