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  • 1/4/2022
"Mom bods are not accepted but dad bods are."

People on TikTok are calling out these sexist behaviors that society has normalized ...
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00:00Why do we say grow a pair or get some balls?
00:05In clothing stores, women's plus size sections are called plus size and men's are called big and tall.
00:11Mom bots are not accepted but dad bots are.
00:24It's okay to continue your social life and still be a good mom.
00:27However, when I do it, I'm going to look like a bad mom and oh, I'm just an alcoholic and I'm drinking because I don't like my kids.
00:34But when he does it, it's fine.
00:36They're just going to be like, oh, you're such a good dad because you're staying in the picture.
00:39But in order for me to be a good mom, I have to completely destroy my social life.
00:43You ask a woman what she wants to do when she grows up.
00:46And if she doesn't mention marriage or children, she's looked at as a pariah in society.
00:51But if you ask a man, the only thing they expect from him is a career.
00:56Now, male actors like Ryan Gosling and Leonardo DiCaprio can play the lead actor love interest character their entire careers.
01:07But each time their female co-star love interest gets younger.
01:13That women are forced to take sole responsibility for contraception needs, especially because women are only fertile three to five days of the month.
01:21Men fertile every single day of the year.
01:24Single mothers are seen as weak and fragile while single fathers are praised and seen as brave.
01:30When people come up to me and tell me my daughter is really beautiful and that I better watch out for her when she gets older.
01:36Like they're actually expecting our daughters to be sexually assaulted.
01:41When really, if you think about it, who are they going to get sexually assaulted by?
01:45The boys.
01:46And nobody in a million years would go up to boys parents when the boy was being boisterous and hitting someone.
01:52Oh, you better be careful of him when he's older.
01:55Could turn out to be a predator.
01:57Why do we say grow a pair or get some balls when referring to a situation where anyone needs to be strong and tough?
02:07I'm pretty sure the last time I checked, if you flick a dude's balls, they shrivel up into the fetal position.
02:14So the prefix for men is Mr.
02:17And the prefix for women is Miss, Miss and Mrs.
02:23The fact that the prefix for what is a woman within society is directly dependent on if she is single or married.
02:32Children's clothing.
02:34In the little boys section, it's all like, I'm going to grow up to be the best doctor in the world.
02:38And the little girls clothes, it's like, oh my God, I'm so pretty.
02:41Fathers walking their daughters down the aisle and then they'll like hand them off to the husband and they'll even shake hands as if it's a trade deal.
02:52What is up with that whole tradition?
02:55Seems like a property exchange.
02:57I've tried numerous times and asked numerous doctors if I can have my tubes tied because I do not want children.
03:03My husband and I do not want children.
03:05They want to have a meeting with both me and my husband.
03:09They tell me I'll probably change my mind that I'm too young or that I need to wait until I have at least one child, even though I don't want any.
03:17But my husband can make one phone call and set up an appointment just like that.
03:22A woman with boundaries is selfish, rude, mean, harsh.
03:27A man with boundaries, confident, powerful, successful, ambitious.
03:32Girls are raised to be wives until what they can or can't do in their present for what their future husband might like.
03:37We have to know how to cook and clean as if those aren't human traits that we all need to know how to do as adults to stay alive.
03:43Mom bods are not accepted, but dad bods are.
03:46He got fat for no reason.
03:48She got fat because she carried a child.
03:50The fact that it's so normalized for women to change their last name after getting married is beyond me.
03:58Like this is the name you got your degree with.
04:00This is the name that is associated with all your accomplishments.
04:03Yet society just expects you to pack it up and change it the second you get married.
04:07Every single family event I go to, I get asked if I have a boyfriend and my brother has, I don't think, ever once been asked if he has a girlfriend.
04:16We were overly told to be polite, but men were really never, ever conditioned to that.
04:21The way we literally are so polite, it's actually a danger to us.
04:26One of the most famous known serial killers who killed women literally said women are so afraid of being impolite, they will get into a car with a stranger to seem polite.
04:35And that is often their downfall.
04:37But then boys are taught, oh, well, you know, boys will be boys.
04:40They're just having fun.
04:41You know, boys mature way slower than girls do.
04:44So we're just going to let him have a great time.
04:46Who the hell are y'all raising these lives for?
04:49Not only is there the unspoken expectation that women are supposed to plan their entire wedding with the help of other women in the family,
04:56we make jokes about how stressful it is for men just to be in the room while they're doing this.
05:02Oh, and then there's that thing where women can't do actually literally anything without being criticized for it.