Sister Wives S19 Episode 11 - The Eleventh Hour
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00:00Previously on Sister Wives...
00:03Dang!
00:05It's nice, huh?
00:06Yeah, it's really nice.
00:07We love it.
00:08David and I are moving in together.
00:10We're moving in together.
00:11Oh, my gosh.
00:12We only met a couple of...
00:13We only met a couple of months ago.
00:15We will try to replace Dad, right?
00:18For us.
00:20Because no one's gonna replace your dad.
00:22Right.
00:23No one.
00:24Ugh.
00:25There's not anything really...
00:26I'm free.
00:27What do you mean by free?
00:28Well, I mean, Cody and I have officially said
00:31it's not working.
00:32Really?
00:33I guess we had to officially say it.
00:34I mean, I wish things, you know, in the family
00:37could have gone a different way.
00:39Yeah, me too.
00:40Hello.
00:42You can start to get...
00:43Hey.
00:44Yeah, Robin and I are going over
00:45to Gwendolyn's bridal shower.
00:47Hi, David.
00:48It's good to meet you.
00:50We found out that Christine was bringing her boyfriend.
00:54It was a little shocking.
00:55They'll stay on their side,
00:56and we'll just try to not bother them.
00:58And so I'm posing with David,
01:00and then David goes,
01:01this is my favorite place,
01:02and you're my favorite person to be with.
01:05Would you like to marry me?
01:06Oh, God.
01:26Who put marshmallows on their pizza?
01:39Guess.
01:41Oh.
01:42Tonight, a bunch of our kids are coming over.
01:44We have something very exciting
01:45that we're gonna share with them.
01:47We're engaged.
01:49So you guys, oh, the pizza stuff.
01:51There's red sauce,
01:52or there's Alfredo sauce behind you.
01:55Megan will be an adult and help you.
01:59I've never been an adult in my life.
02:01I don't know how.
02:02So David's kids and my kids are syncing up so well.
02:08I can tell, like, the kids feel like
02:10it's happening way too fast.
02:12And we know it, and we don't care.
02:14It's our lives, not theirs.
02:15Goodness.
02:16Come on, let's twirl it, ready?
02:18Go, go.
02:19I can't do it.
02:20Isabelle's doing better and better and better.
02:22I already told her that David and I are engaged.
02:25What if you did the red sauce and Alfredo sauce?
02:30I felt like she deserved to know,
02:32because she's gonna struggle with it most with my kids.
02:35She was like, wait, what?
02:37You're getting married.
02:38And I said, you knew we were getting married.
02:40It's not too soon.
02:41We just moved fast now,
02:42but now nothing else is happening.
02:44We moved in with each other.
02:46We're engaged.
02:47Nothing else until we have, like, wedding planning stuff.
02:50This is it.
02:51We took some videos in Moab.
02:53I want to show you guys.
02:54So I told everybody that I have a video
02:56to show them of the wedding venues
02:57so they could all kind of get a preview.
02:59We took some photos, and we were in Moab.
03:02So Mom is a very theatrical person,
03:04and she likes to make big surprises.
03:06But she's also a very open person
03:09that doesn't hide anything.
03:11Pretty sure that's another woman.
03:14Who is that?
03:16Oh, crap.
03:18Oh, my gosh.
03:20Wait, what?
03:21Wow.
03:22Wait, what?
03:23You two are engaged?
03:25OK, let's see the ring.
03:26What is going on here?
03:27Ring, ring, ring.
03:28She also wanted us to react to it properly.
03:32Oh, my gosh.
03:33You guys are engaged?
03:34What?
03:35I think people just put it together really fast.
03:38But no, he could have been quiet and let us reveal it.
03:42Rubbish.
03:43Wow.
03:45What?
03:46Oh, my gosh.
03:47Hot dance.
03:48Engaged?
03:49Really?
03:50Really?
03:51It's been, like, what?
03:52Two days?
03:53Three days, maybe?
03:54I just met the guy.
03:55What's going on here?
03:56I just know it went quick.
03:57It's nice.
03:58We designed it.
03:59Is it real?
04:00Is it real?
04:01Wow.
04:02Yeah, it's real, just like David's real.
04:04Until seeing Mom as happy as she is with David,
04:06I don't think I realized how unhappy she was with Dad.
04:10So guess what?
04:12We're engaged.
04:14No.
04:16What?
04:17It's nice to see this.
04:18I'm happy she has this experience
04:20and that she is happy with David and can be herself.
04:23Congratulations, guys.
04:24We're happy.
04:25So when's the wedding?
04:26October 7th.
04:27Okay, I like it.
04:29We're getting married in seven months.
04:32I guess, you know, it takes a while to plan a wedding.
04:35So, yeah, the work is now beginning.
04:39♪♪
04:43♪♪
04:49Today is moving day.
04:51I'm super excited.
04:52It's gonna be a big day.
04:53There's a lot that we still need to pack up and get moved.
04:56♪♪
04:59Cody and Nathan will both be here,
05:01and they will be the muscle
05:02and be able to help me move everything in
05:04and get it all packed up.
05:05And then Cody will be driving the truck up to Parowan for me.
05:09Hey, Mary.
05:10Hi.
05:11Hail, Mary.
05:12Hail.
05:13She's not full of grace.
05:14My feelings on this issue are probably a little mixed,
05:16but I'm very glad I'm able to help her move.
05:18I'm very good with her moving on.
05:20Hello. How are you?
05:22Hi.
05:23I hope this is a goodwill gesture
05:24that'll keep us in a good place with each other.
05:27Hey, I got a bomb to drop.
05:28There are no bombs anymore, Mary.
05:30Do you know what today is?
05:31I do know what today is.
05:34Do I know what today is?
05:36Well...
05:37It's our anniversary.
05:38It's not anymore.
05:40Well...
05:41It would have been.
05:43I wonder if she picked this day on purpose.
05:45This was not planned.
05:47This was not intentional.
05:49Today would have been mine and Cody's 33rd anniversary.
05:52It's almost like it's God, the universe, whatever.
05:56Like, you have done your time.
05:58Move on.
06:00Is that why you wore the karma?
06:02Is that why you wore the karma shirt?
06:04I mean...
06:06Karma's a bitch.
06:08Oh, my goodness.
06:10I'm just laying the cards out on the table.
06:13This is who I am.
06:14It doesn't matter anymore.
06:16We're not married.
06:17Mary, those are really nice.
06:18Should we run to town and get bags for them?
06:20Cody, no.
06:21Cody?
06:22Okay, all right.
06:23These are not really nice.
06:25Oh, they're not?
06:26This is the bed that you and I bought
06:27when we first moved to Vegas.
06:28It's time for a new one.
06:31I love this bed.
06:32I love this bedroom set.
06:34When we moved to Las Vegas,
06:36Cody and I went out,
06:37and we bought this bedroom set together.
06:39It was, like, the first brand-new bed,
06:44bedroom set, mattress that we had ever had.
06:48Cody hasn't slept in this bed with me
06:52for, like, many, many years.
06:55I'm not gonna take it into the next phase of my life.
06:58I don't intend to be single the rest of my life,
07:01and I'm not gonna be like,
07:02hmm, here, look, this is my bed that I had with my ex.
07:05Like, that would just be weird.
07:07Is that stationary bike coming here?
07:10This is why you kept the saran wrap on the wheels.
07:13Yes, for two years.
07:15Hey, hey, don't pretend you're gonna help me now.
07:18Got you.
07:19Wow, chicken little.
07:20I got you.
07:21After all the baking's done,
07:24show up and be the hero now.
07:26Someone's gotta do it.
07:29Whoa, stop.
07:31This is...
07:32Is this awkward?
07:34Stop.
07:35Is this awkward?
07:36No, I'm so sorry.
07:37I should have punched you in the mouth.
07:40Mary backs right into me,
07:42and then Nathan pushes the bike into her.
07:46All right.
07:47What is happening?
07:49What are you doing?
07:52You okay, Mary?
07:54That's sexual harassment from your brother-in-law.
07:58Mary's bent over in front of me,
08:01right against me.
08:02Closer than I have been to him in years.
08:05Who is my ex.
08:06Oh, my gosh.
08:08Oh, my gosh.
08:11We're divorced.
08:12I have one wife,
08:13and it's funny, but it's not funny.
08:18Robin didn't choose to be a monogamous,
08:20but she is one now.
08:21I mean, Mary and I have not been in this situation
08:25for eight or nine years.
08:28Uh-oh, karma saw that.
08:30You're gonna make me pee my pants.
08:33When I'm working,
08:37and I'm busy, I'm like a toddler.
08:39I don't want to be distracted when I have a full bladder.
08:43Stop.
08:44Next time, it's gonna be you,
08:45and I'm gonna be behind.
08:46And so when Nathan pushes the bike up against me,
08:50not only is it awkward and uncomfortable for that,
08:53it was also awkward and very uncomfortable
08:55because I had a full bladder.
08:57If he didn't let it go,
08:58I was gonna pee my pants,
08:59and I was not lying.
09:01All right, here, let's,
09:02I want to keep working here.
09:04I really want to work.
09:06All right, here, you move,
09:07move out of the way, Mary.
09:08Okay.
09:09We'll make this fit.
09:10Holy lordy lord almighty.
09:12Like, it was funny for us.
09:14Like, it was uncomfortable.
09:15It was like, knock it off, Nathan.
09:18Back off, man.
09:19But also, in any other situation,
09:21it may not have been funny.
09:23I think that's the first time I've ever threatened you.
09:25Like, I'm gonna punch you in the mouth.
09:28Yes, I agree, it was hilariously funny.
09:30But on a matter of principle, it's not okay.
09:33Oh, yeah.
09:34We're joking about something
09:35that I certainly consider to be sacred with me and Robin.
09:39Because it was sexual in nature.
09:41You know what I'm saying?
09:42It just, like, it was so funny,
09:45and yet so...
09:49wrong.
09:53I went and talked to,
09:54I even went and talked to Matt, or Mary.
09:56That's the first time I've seen her
09:57in, like, a year and a half.
09:58Oh.
09:59And it was a weird conversation.
10:00It was?
10:01She basically implied that she was so surprised.
10:03Like, somehow she thought I'd been controlling the money.
10:06It was Cody who really had the control of the money.
10:09If you controlled the money,
10:10I think things would look a lot different.
10:12Do you mind if I controlled the money?
10:13We would have paid off.
10:14Built a house.
10:25Janelle's coming into town for several reasons.
10:28First, to meet David.
10:29She's never met David.
10:30Her kids have met David,
10:31but not her if she wasn't there.
10:33And I want to tell her I'm engaged.
10:35So it's all good things.
10:36I'm so excited.
10:37I'm really glad she's coming.
10:38It's been a long time since I've seen her.
10:40I mean, I told David that Janelle has to come with me,
10:43and, you know, my life and everything that I do.
10:44So, you know, it's about time that they meet
10:46since we're engaged.
10:49Janelle!
10:50Welcome!
10:51Oh, my gosh.
10:52Hello.
10:53How was your drive, flight?
10:54Flight.
10:55So I know Christine has been dating this guy named David.
10:58I really need to meet him
10:59because it's obviously very serious.
11:01It looks bigger than it does on the outside.
11:02Yes.
11:03It's nice.
11:04We love it.
11:05It's deep.
11:06It's deep.
11:07Our office?
11:08Yeah.
11:09Everybody's talking about him.
11:10That's all she talks about.
11:11They bought a house together.
11:12I'm like, I got to meet this guy.
11:14And then we needed the space big enough
11:16because he's got eight kids,
11:17and seven of them live close.
11:19Okay.
11:20And then I have all our kids.
11:21I like pretty much everybody
11:22unless they're really pompous and full of themselves.
11:25I do not imagine David is that person.
11:27I don't think Christine would put up with that.
11:29So I don't think I'm not going to like him,
11:31but what if we don't like each other?
11:32What if we have clashes?
11:34I have to make a lasagna.
11:35I'll help.
11:36You tell me.
11:37You can watch.
11:38I'll be your sous chef.
11:39That would be bad.
11:40It would be really bad.
11:42I still don't know where everything is.
11:43We've only lived here for,
11:44it'll be three weeks tomorrow.
11:46Wow.
11:47I know.
11:48Wow.
11:49It's fast.
11:50I remember Christine talking to me
11:51when she first met David.
11:52I think it was like their third or fourth date
11:54when she just knew.
11:56So it does seem very fast,
11:57but it doesn't feel wrong.
12:01So yeah.
12:02Perfect.
12:03Maddie and Caleb and I have been looking in Montana.
12:05You knew.
12:06Yeah.
12:07Okay, so wait for it.
12:09Okay.
12:10We actually found a place in North Carolina.
12:12It's a farm.
12:13Are you serious?
12:15Well, I mean, we'll see.
12:16We're still,
12:17and Caleb can still keep his same job.
12:19Which is great.
12:20It's only about an hour from where they live now.
12:22They found land.
12:23This isn't a,
12:24I found a house, I can resell it.
12:26This is Janelle finding land.
12:30So as Maddie and Caleb and I
12:31really kind of dug into the Montana property,
12:34we just decided that it was really, really expensive.
12:38So we started looking,
12:39and there's actually some properties
12:40not very far from where Maddie is now in North Carolina,
12:43and they're really surprisingly affordable.
12:46Now what about the property?
12:48Do you have to sell that first?
12:49No, I don't know.
12:52When we first signed the paperwork for Coyote Pass,
12:54I read on there that it would be
12:55a big, huge balloon payment at the end.
12:57They have to pay it off in the next couple of months.
13:00And if they don't do that, they lose it all.
13:02Can you imagine?
13:03That's stressful.
13:04Cody says he's going to have the money.
13:07Two months.
13:08Okay, and he says he'll have the money.
13:10That's what he says.
13:11And I told him I want him to buy me out,
13:13and he's like, I don't have the money.
13:15And I'm like, okay.
13:16I haven't said anything to him about North Carolina.
13:18I don't really feel like I need to share that with him.
13:20He's not going to be part of that life.
13:22I think he's not going to be that stupid,
13:24but you know, him, he gets to the place
13:26where all of a sudden it's due,
13:28and then it's somebody else's fault.
13:29It's never his fault.
13:31I know.
13:32It's always somebody else's fault.
13:33But I mean, it's a real possibility.
13:34I went and talked to, I even went and talked to Mary.
13:36That's the first time I've seen her in like a year and a half.
13:38Oh.
13:39I went and talked to Mary, and I said,
13:40look, here's what's happening.
13:43It's due, due, like soon.
13:45And I said, you know, you might want to really be proactive
13:49and make sure you get your part.
13:51And it was a weird conversation.
13:53It was?
13:54She basically implied that she was so surprised.
13:56Like somehow she thought I'd been controlling the money
13:59all these years.
14:01I'm like, do you mind if I control the money?
14:03We would have paid off, built a house.
14:06It's funny.
14:07My other wives remember Janelle controlling the money.
14:09I sort of guided where the money went.
14:13We all had access to the account.
14:15Listen, we were a family working together,
14:17and we did this best we could.
14:20I don't know what Cody's been saying about like somehow
14:23I'm controlling the money.
14:24If you control the money, I think
14:25things would look a lot different.
14:26I just, I'm like, all I've ever done
14:28is just record what was spent and sent it to the accountant.
14:31Maybe because some of the texts you were like,
14:32does anybody know what was spent on this and this
14:34and this and this?
14:35Yes, right.
14:36Because I'm like, people were just spending,
14:38and I'm like, I don't know who this belongs to.
14:40No, it's wild.
14:41So this is Cody's MO.
14:43He tends to attack somebody in an area
14:45that's important to them.
14:46So he would say to Christine, I'm not
14:48physically attracted to you.
14:49That's what he said.
14:50The whole marriage, I was not physically attracted to you.
14:52And that devastated her.
14:53I told Janelle that I wasn't attracted to Christine
14:57when I was moving my stuff out of Christine's house
15:00into Janelle's house.
15:01That was a private conversation.
15:03I was in pain.
15:04I never intended for Janelle to go telling Christine
15:07what I thought about her during our breakup.
15:10It was just totally rude of her.
15:12For me, financial security and being smart financially
15:15is really, really important.
15:17So he's trying to pin everything on me.
15:20It makes me so mad, because he didn't know it.
15:22He was doing it behind my back.
15:23He kept telling everybody these stories.
15:25And I'm like, fucking hell, excuse me.
15:27But it's like, I didn't do anything
15:29except for have to drink a glass of whole freaking
15:31bottle of wine when I sat and recorded the transactions
15:34and sent them to the accountant.
15:37Janelle says one thing, and Cody and Robin
15:39say another thing.
15:40I don't think either one of them are being 100% truthful.
15:44I'm trying to protect everybody here,
15:46trying to make sure everybody gets there.
15:48And all I went to do to tell her was,
15:50you should maybe be aware of what's.
15:52Yeah.
15:53She told me she's moving to Parowan.
15:55Wait a minute.
15:56Yeah, she told me she's moving.
15:57Moving to Parowan.
15:58Yeah.
15:59Really?
16:00I'm actually glad for her.
16:01So she's down in Flagstaff then?
16:02She doesn't live there anymore?
16:03I don't know why she'd stay.
16:05I'm excited that Mary is moving.
16:07That's great.
16:08She needs to move on.
16:09That's good for her.
16:12When it comes down to controlling money,
16:14I just feel like we each knew what
16:16we were going to get out of the family money.
16:18And then if there was anything extra,
16:20we would just have to talk to Cody.
16:21But then he could spend whatever the hell he wanted.
16:24There was a lot of that.
16:27All of our money got put into a big, huge fund.
16:31And we got paid out of that fund.
16:33And I always talked to Cody about getting paid.
16:35He's the one who always wrote the check.
16:36If I needed anything, I told Cody.
16:38It was Cody who really had the control of the money.
16:41He really did.
16:44Oh, hi.
16:45How's it going?
16:46Robin's coming over.
16:47She told me she's going to drop off something
16:49and say goodbye to Mary.
16:50And I know she's not well.
16:53I know that Robin is brokenhearted about this.
16:56And that's something she's going to have
16:58to process through herself.
17:10I got a tattoo.
17:13OK.
17:14I had to be out east for the baby.
17:17But I heard about the engagement party.
17:21Wow.
17:22So David and I have matching ones.
17:24It means new beginnings in Celtic.
17:26OK.
17:27So y'all got tattoos.
17:28At Wendland's engagement party.
17:30I've known Janelle for 30 years.
17:33And most of those 30 years, it was
17:36like a very more of a straight-laced lifestyle.
17:39And here I am living a life that I previously
17:41would have thought I was just being rebellious
17:43and living in sin.
17:46That is the statement.
17:47I am now living in sin.
17:50Wow.
17:51Cody came.
17:52He was there for a brief hot second.
17:55And it was right when Gwendolyn was getting her tattoo.
17:58He was there.
17:59And I'm like, all right.
18:01There we go.
18:02Wow.
18:03It's happening.
18:04Wow.
18:0510 years ago, I don't know if we ever could have imagined.
18:07What, three years ago?
18:08I don't think we've ever.
18:09Not three years ago.
18:10It's so funny.
18:11My kids, like, they all have tattoos.
18:13They think it's fine.
18:14But they're kind of weirded out.
18:16Because Christine was always this, like,
18:18super black and white, super pious, super religious
18:21person growing up.
18:23So I knew Janelle through all of that more
18:26conservative kind of a life.
18:28And now she's still one of my best friends.
18:32You know, people change.
18:33And everything changes.
18:34And she's going to support me with all these decisions.
18:36And she's not going to think I'm going to burn in hell.
18:38So it's great.
18:39Well, it's worked out really well.
18:41Yes.
18:42A whole new life, like, really fast.
18:44Really fast, yes.
18:45So something else is fast.
18:48I am engaged.
18:50Oh.
18:53Oh, my word, it's gorgeous.
18:56When we went to Flagstaff, he surprised me.
18:58We were.
18:59Oh, when you went out, when you weren't just there?
19:01Just there, barely, yeah.
19:02So we stand there.
19:03And he's like, I want to be with you.
19:04You're the most beautiful person I know.
19:06And I'm like, oh, oh.
19:08And then he pulls out the ring.
19:10It goes down on one knee.
19:11I dropped everything.
19:12And I'm like, I need to answer.
19:14I dropped everything.
19:15And I'm like, I need to answer.
19:16And he's like, yes, yes, yes.
19:18It was great.
19:19I love it.
19:20It's been so much fun.
19:21Yeah, woo.
19:22So I am engaged.
19:24So at this point, Christine's met David.
19:25They've dated enough to know that they
19:28wanted to buy a house together.
19:30And now they're engaged.
19:31OK, and I haven't met David.
19:33I sure hope as hell I like him.
19:35I hope, I hope.
19:36This could be bad.
19:37Because they are already committed.
19:38Like, they put some dollars into this ring.
19:41You know what I mean?
19:42It's moving day.
19:52I'm leaving.
19:53I'm leaving this house.
19:54I'm leaving Flagstaff.
19:55I've already left Cody.
19:56And I'm moving on.
19:58OK, I'm lifting.
20:00And you're moving it towards me.
20:03My hand on your back, I know, is doing so much good.
20:06No, keep it.
20:07Keep it.
20:08Because I need something to lean into if I start to fall.
20:10She's just on point today.
20:12She's just the wonderful woman that I would
20:15have liked to have been married to.
20:17Hey, listen.
20:18Listen, we're like the best divorced couple ever.
20:20What a, what a.
20:23Yeah.
20:24Wow, there you go.
20:25Yeah, she is the favorite divorced wife.
20:27I knew I was going to have a chance
20:29of being favorite at one point.
20:31Yeah.
20:32And you're the favorite ex-wife, Mary.
20:35That's easy as can be.
20:36That's, that's actually great.
20:40Are you saying anything?
20:41I'm not saying anything.
20:42Both of you are laughing your heads off.
20:48So today is Mary's moving day.
20:52Cody's over there with her helping pack up.
20:54Mary, I do want you to hold that strap.
20:56I was hoping to be able to be a part of it
20:59and help her and go there.
21:01But every single cell in my body would be screaming at me
21:04to stop helping her.
21:06Because I just don't want her to leave.
21:08We're going to give it a little pressure.
21:10On the bottom or just here?
21:12Bottom two.
21:14That's plenty.
21:15I think that's nice and tight.
21:17I think that we need to.
21:20Oh, hi.
21:21How's it going?
21:24Good.
21:26We're packing.
21:27Yeah.
21:28So Robin's coming over.
21:29She told me she was going to drop off something
21:31and say goodbye to Mary.
21:32And I know she's not well about this.
21:36It's a heartbreak of extreme proportions
21:42that I don't understand.
21:48OK.
21:50You and I are just going to keep working.
21:52You and I are just going to keep working.
22:09I know this isn't goodbye, but...
22:18I know I'll still see you and stuff.
22:20Yeah.
22:22And to come over.
22:23Thanks.
22:24I appreciate that.
22:25And wish you good wishes.
22:29I appreciate that.
22:30And tell you that I love you.
22:32I love you too.
22:33Robin and Mary's relationship has frustrated me for years.
22:36I've seen Robin just manipulate Mary.
22:39A real friend would be like,
22:41yeah, you have a sucky marriage.
22:42You should leave.
22:43Christine actually doesn't know much
22:45about mine and Mary's relationship.
22:47The idea of manipulating Mary into doing something
22:50she doesn't want to do is sort of laughable.
22:53I'm sorry that this worked out this way.
22:56Yeah, it's kind of sucky.
22:58I wish it would have worked out very differently.
23:01Yeah, me too.
23:04Knowing Mary, she's just sort of taking it in.
23:08She's trying not to let this hurt,
23:12like this whole experience of her moving,
23:15put her into a place of sadness.
23:20I just wanted to bring you a little.
23:24I just wanted to bring you a little.
23:28I just wanted to bring you a little.
23:32I just wanted to bring you a little.
23:33I'll just write a new one.
23:36Um...
23:44Aw, that's pretty.
23:46May there always be an angel by your side.
23:48It's a junk journal.
23:49It's basically a journal with a whole bunch of, like,
23:52pictures and cute little papers and stuff like that.
23:55I just want everything to go okay for you.
23:59I think it will.
24:00I'm really big on writing down your dreams and your goals,
24:04and the whole point of bringing a journal to her
24:07was to say, kind of say,
24:09I wish you happiness in your next chapter.
24:16And here is something to write down all those beautiful dreams
24:20that you are going to come up with, kind of a thing.
24:26I love you.
24:28I love you.
24:35It's not what we chose, so...
24:37No, it's not.
24:39Um, she's very emotional.
24:42And, um, I don't want to be emotional.
24:51I don't mean to make you blue.
24:52I'm not trying to do that.
24:53No, it's fine.
24:54I love you.
24:55It's fine.
24:57It's going to be sad that you're not here, so...
25:00Yeah.
25:01Yeah.
25:02So...
25:03Yeah.
25:04Like, I've had a lot of emotions through this,
25:08through the past decade,
25:10through the past four years while we've been living in Flagstaff,
25:13through the past year, I've had a lot of emotions,
25:16and I keep my emotions guarded,
25:20and I only share them with the people
25:24that I'm comfortable sharing them with.
25:27I really want you to find happiness.
25:30I'm happy.
25:32Okay.
25:33I'm happy.
25:34I mean, I'm not happy with this, but I have a good life.
25:38So...
25:39All right.
25:41Good luck.
25:42All right.
25:44I guess we'll just, yeah, we've got phones.
25:47I know that Robin is brokenhearted about this,
25:50and that's something she's going to have to process through herself.
25:57Bye.
25:58Dude, this is about me today.
26:02Yeah.
26:03Yeah, whatever.
26:04You get her all the time.
26:05Yeah, whatever.
26:06Relax.
26:07Yeah, I'm good.
26:08Fine.
26:10I'm at peace with where I am.
26:13I'm...
26:15I have an internal happiness that I haven't had for a really long time,
26:20and I'm not going to let that be brought down.
26:24It's just one heartbreak after another.
26:32It's just too much.
26:40It's just too much.
26:44It's just too much.
26:50It's just different.
26:52It's just different now.
27:14They're looking for somebody to blame.
27:16I guess it's me.
27:17I'm not blaming.
27:18Relax.
27:20This plural marriage was a big picture for us.
27:22It was sacred.
27:23It was religious to us.
27:25It crumbled, and it failed, and I'm bitter, and I'm hurt,
27:29as I am sure the other members of this family are bitter and hurt,
27:33including Mary.
27:40Everything goes.
27:41Everything goes.
27:42Okay, Cody.
27:43Yeah.
27:44Biggest, most important.
27:46That's my mirror and our family mission statement.
27:48Not sure what I'm going to do with it.
27:50Maybe burn it, because obviously it didn't work.
27:54You know, the mission statement, I don't know what to do with.
27:58We had all worked together to write this mission statement.
28:02The Cody Brown family.
28:04We teach, allow, and promote the value of making conscious
28:07and responsible choices.
28:09We embrace one another with a covenant of eternal nature.
28:12Our bodies being the temples for our spirits.
28:15And then we had this celebration, you know, just celebrating us
28:18and committing, recommitting to each other.
28:21Well, that didn't work, because look at us now.
28:25They're looking for somebody to blame.
28:27I guess it's me.
28:28I'm not blaming.
28:29Relax.
28:31It's really important to know that I felt like that family mission
28:34statement was very, very inspired.
28:37It was the pinnacle of joy for me.
28:41In plural marriage, I just never really knew how to do it.
28:44I don't know what to say about plural marriage that made our lives
28:48so difficult with each other.
28:50There was no map necessarily or particularly a rule book
28:56that really made it functionally workable.
28:59Take it off.
29:00Hey, big boy.
29:01Listen.
29:02Wow.
29:04Let's get on the road.
29:06This plural marriage was a big picture for us.
29:08It was sacred.
29:09It was religious to us.
29:11It crumbled, and it failed.
29:13And I'm bitter, and I'm hurt.
29:17As I am sure the other members of this family are bitter and hurt,
29:21including Mary.
29:22Let's hit the road.
29:23You're going to shut the garage door.
29:24Oh, yeah.
29:25I got to lock it and come around that way.
29:28Mary changed after we got married.
29:32And it was a hard relationship until today.
29:37And that's ironic.
29:39Today has been good.
29:40It's like we're seeing these parts of ourselves that we loved back in the day.
29:48I also don't feel any regret of where I am right now.
29:56Hello.
29:57I'm home.
29:58Hey, baby.
30:00Okay.
30:02This is Janelle.
30:03Here's my sister-in-law.
30:04It's like meeting the family.
30:05I know.
30:06Janelle, David.
30:07David.
30:08Oh, I told her.
30:09Oh, you did?
30:10There's David, my fiance.
30:12Hi, nice to meet you.
30:13Nice to meet you, yeah.
30:14I loved it.
30:15I loved it.
30:16I actually thought, I'm going to introduce Janelle to David as my sister-in-law,
30:18and I got to.
30:19I'm like, here's my sister-in-law.
30:21Which usually your sister-in-law is someone, you know, when you marry the same man.
30:26And that's not happening, of course.
30:28I still do consider Janelle my sister-in-law.
30:31Christine explained to me how Janelle will be part of her sister-in-law for forever.
30:36I got a little nervous about it.
30:37I'm like, okay, what does that mean?
30:39Because I don't have anything to do with that stuff.
30:41One man, one woman, that's it.
30:44Okay.
30:45What are you guys doing?
30:46We're making lasagna.
30:47This is exactly the guy that Christine's looking for.
30:50I'll show my tattoo.
30:51Show yours.
30:52Your tattoo.
30:53Which one?
30:54Well, just the one.
30:55Whatever.
30:56You can show everything.
30:57Isn't that cute?
30:58Same place.
30:59Yeah.
31:00Yeah, yeah, yeah.
31:01No, I have the bigger one.
31:02Yeah, he's got a ship.
31:04I told him I was looking for someone specifically on my dating profile.
31:08I wanted someone bald, tattoos, and I drove a motorcycle.
31:13That's who I was looking for on my profile.
31:16Just a wee bit different from Cody.
31:19Oh, I see.
31:20It's like you've got what you were looking for.
31:22I got exactly what I was looking for.
31:23Yeah, he had a motorcycle too.
31:25So she was always really attracted to that kind of bad, badass, I'm going to just say it.
31:31I was nervous about moving in with a guy full-time.
31:34I was just really, really nervous.
31:36Oh, really?
31:37Well, it's the first time in my life that I've had a guy full-time, right?
31:40So I always thought that living with a guy full-time would be super boring,
31:45and guys were like a ball and chain, and so difficult,
31:48and I always wanted to live polygamy because I just thought monogamy just sounded so boring.
31:55It's not boring.
31:56There's literally nothing boring about David at all.
31:59David's chill.
32:00He's super, super, super chill.
32:02Totally easygoing.
32:04Doesn't expect anything.
32:06No expectations.
32:07Okay, right?
32:08Right?
32:09Everything you're not saying is what I agree with.
32:11No expectations whatsoever.
32:14He just comes in.
32:15That's awesome.
32:16I'm really actually glad for you guys.
32:17It's fantastic.
32:18Christine actually seems happy.
32:21I can tell that she feels loved.
32:23I can tell that she's confident.
32:24I can tell she knows she's loved, and she's secure in that.
32:28It's so amazing for her.
32:33Mary, it's the end of an era.
32:37This is like the final, like the final, final.
32:41It always blows me away that you get emotional like this.
32:44I just don't understand.
32:45We had something.
32:47He's sobbing.
32:48He's saying it's the end of an era,
32:50and I'm thinking it didn't have to be this way.
33:03Today we are unpacking,
33:05getting it all loaded into either the house
33:08or into the storage unit.
33:12Hey, Jen, how's it going?
33:14It's going. How are you?
33:15Cody and Nathan are here to help me unpack,
33:17and then Jen, my best friend, she's here too.
33:19Did you park this by yourself?
33:21I could have parked it by myself,
33:22but I had two people trying to boss me around
33:24on how to do it.
33:25I know nothing about that at all.
33:27Wait, you're the pro boss, or I learned from you, Jen.
33:30No, no, no, no. Mary's been bossy from day one.
33:33I have no idea what you're talking about.
33:35She's never been bossy.
33:37Cody's always going to say that I'm bossy.
33:39When I say that something should be done a certain way,
33:42I'm usually right.
33:44So if he wants to take that as bossy, fine.
33:48Here we go.
33:49You got it?
33:50I'm doing it.
33:51Are you getting paid, or am I getting paid?
33:53Listen, he's my brother-in-law.
33:55This is my severance package.
33:57Oh!
33:58A little bit this way?
33:59Okay, there you go.
34:00Do you want to see the...
34:01Wait!
34:02I want to see the upstairs.
34:03Upstairs first.
34:04Listen, Linda, one space at a time.
34:05Is that not weird to show my ex-husband my bedroom?
34:08Let me take you into your ex-wife's bedroom.
34:09That's even more weird.
34:10Hi, I'm the best friend.
34:12Let me take you into your ex-wife's bedroom.
34:14If you have an amiable relationship with your ex,
34:17it's like brother and sister.
34:18I am the favorite ex-wife.
34:22She's finally made it.
34:23She heard angels sing.
34:25All right, let's go check this out.
34:26Finally!
34:27I can be the favorite!
34:29I'm sorry, I'm just...
34:30It's true, she's the favorite ex-wife.
34:32All right, let's go.
34:33Y'all, with your polygamy humor?
34:35Mary and Christine loved polygamy humor
34:39with each other and with me.
34:41And Janelle didn't like it and Robin didn't like it.
34:45Like, I made a joke once and Robin said,
34:47I've been terrorized by criticism
34:51of coming into this family.
34:53Let's respect this.
34:56To be fair, I think the struggle that Janelle had in it
34:58and I think the struggle Robin had in it
35:00is kind of being a new wife coming in
35:02and feeling like there wasn't full acceptance.
35:04I mean, because I guarantee you that happened to Janelle.
35:08And frankly, that's one of my big regrets.
35:11Whenever you bring a new wife into the family,
35:14it shakes things up.
35:16I did have a hard time.
35:17I've admitted that.
35:18I've never lied about that.
35:20I don't know what to say about it other than
35:24I'm sorry that I wasn't perfect.
35:27All right.
35:28Okay, we're ready to go, ladies, I think.
35:30Thank you for your help.
35:31Oh, you are more than welcome.
35:35You know, this is like
35:38the final, like the final, final.
35:40I'm done in Flagstaff.
35:42My marriage with him is done.
35:44I'm starting this new life.
35:48Okay, all right.
35:51It's kind of the...
35:56It was fun hanging out with you today.
35:57Marriage is the end of an era.
36:03Yeah, it is.
36:09It was a great run,
36:10but I'm not going to let it get me down.
36:14It always blows me away that you get emotional like this.
36:17I just don't understand.
36:19It's just, I'm looking at my life,
36:21and it feels not turned upside down.
36:23It feels like everything just...
36:26We had something.
36:30We had something really good.
36:33We had something special.
36:39And it feels like it just all went to s***, sort of.
36:42You know?
36:43And it was just one thing,
36:45and then another, and then another thing.
36:47And it's all okay.
36:48I don't feel like...
36:51I'm not bitter anymore.
36:53I'm not angry.
36:54I'm glad you and I got that figured out.
36:56Yeah.
36:57I'm glad that we were able to be friends.
36:59I'm glad that you're my favorite ex-wife.
37:01But it's the weirdest thing to be in that place.
37:04Yeah.
37:05It's just heartbreaking in a way.
37:07And I love the life I have,
37:09but it's a very different life
37:11than what I had three years ago.
37:13You know?
37:14And it just seemed like everybody else just went,
37:17this isn't important.
37:20You know, Robin and I have been in different spaces
37:23and mourning about this.
37:25Christine's gone for sure.
37:27Christine's gone for sure and for good,
37:30and Janelle is most likely
37:33because I just can't find the optimism there anymore.
37:37And...
37:40I lose it.
37:47And it's like this is the final nail
37:50in the coffin of our dream.
37:52It was like we had something special.
37:55We did something special.
37:57And, you know, it was like just the end of an era.
38:01Yeah, it really surprised me.
38:03Like, I don't understand it.
38:07I've been going through an anger phase of divorce all this time,
38:13and just that realization just was like,
38:15I'm not angry anymore.
38:17I'm sad.
38:18I'm sad not about...
38:21Um...
38:27I'm mourning the loss.
38:30You know?
38:36He's sobbing.
38:37He's saying it's the end of an era,
38:39and I'm thinking it didn't have to be this way.
38:45I've been so angry with Christine and Janelle.
38:48That I haven't been able to really address the mourning.
38:52I've just been angry.
38:53And now, with you, I'm through that anger phase.
38:57I'm sorry about the seven years,
39:00but I'm glad we did it
39:02because now I can mourn a loss instead of being angry.
39:06Does that make sense?
39:10Kind of.
39:11And I appreciate what you're saying.
39:14I do not understand.
39:16I don't get it.
39:17I don't know where this is coming from.
39:19I do not understand it.
39:21I don't understand it.
39:23He has made it clear that he did not want me in his life,
39:28so why this emotion?
39:31You know, until the next guy,
39:33you know, if you marry again and everything like that,
39:36it's got to...
39:37I mean, I won't be weird about it.
39:40Even though that guy is weird.
39:42I won't be weird about it.
39:44Even though that got weird, I'm sorry.
39:47Would you be the flower girl?
39:49No, I'd get a walker down the aisle.
39:52The fact that he's saying he wants to walk me down the aisle
39:56when I get married again, I'm like, uh...
39:59Uh...
40:00Like, why would he say that?
40:02He's saying so...
40:03I don't...
40:04I don't know.
40:06I don't...
40:07Like, is he serious?
40:08Is he trying to make a joke?
40:10Like, I can't tell.
40:11I don't know what's going on.
40:12I don't know what's going on.
40:15It's like, you know, this is the end of an era,
40:18and now we have permission to move on.
40:22♪♪♪♪
40:30-♪♪♪♪
40:36I am floored.
40:38Like, I don't know what to do with this.
40:40I'm...
40:41I don't know what to do with this.
40:44Still to come on Sister Wives...
40:48It's just heartbreaking when the reality finally hits.
40:54Oh, s***, what have I done?
40:57-♪♪♪♪
41:00Honey!
41:01Move, move, move, move, move.
41:03Move.
41:04What the hell?
41:05It was dangerous when we started.
41:07It's more dangerous now.
41:08So, have you f***ed any men?
41:10What?
41:11Okay.
41:12Ever since he has married Robin,
41:14he has wanted nobody else.
41:17Or you.
41:19Maybe I did the wrong thing.
41:21-♪♪♪♪
41:25Your vagina looks really nice.
41:27Oh, that needs to go.
41:28We weren't sure where it was, but now we are.
41:31Oh, my gosh!
41:33It's a start over.
41:34It's a do-over in the very biggest way.
41:36Are you okay that this is a Valentine's?
41:39Just you and me?
41:40I feel like I've been slapped by polygamy.
41:43He is very angry.
41:46I'm getting the brunt of it.
41:47All right, guys, people.
41:49Roll out.
41:50I love Flagstaff.
41:51It's time to do something different.
41:54I don't know how to explain this.
41:56It was never intended for me to know that Janelle was moving.
42:00I think we ought to try a little slippery nipple.
42:03Whoo!
42:05It's not bad.
42:07Change and growth are scary, right?
42:09And we don't always want to get out of our comfort zone.
42:12I'm going to move to North Carolina.
42:15If for some reason this goes south,
42:18it's going to be a lot of work.
42:21Listen, dating's fun.
42:23I have dated a little bit.
42:25Definitely not interested in polygamy again.
42:29You definitely got some special land out here.
42:32I think they're worried about whether I'm going to be fair or not.
42:35Divorce just takes away all trust.
42:37I probably will get a lawyer,
42:39because I think he could just drag his feet if he wanted to.
42:42I put money into it.
42:44I'm going to get my part out of it.
42:46It's so wrong that we have to do this.
42:49I'm so mad.
42:52It's a special place that was meant to be more special.
42:55I don't want to sell it.
42:57Just give us what's ours, and we'll move on.
42:59What else is he going to do?
43:00Like, he can't really hurt me.
43:04Will you accept me as a monogamist?
43:07It's not what I wanted.
43:09This is the end of this family, right here, right now.
43:14Woo!