Aired (August 19, 2024): Mula sa librong isinulat ng mag-asawang sina Maricar Reyes at Richard Poon na “10 Things We Fight About,” ano nga ba ang kanilang mga pinag-aawayan at paano nila ito nalalampasan?
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00:00Okay, let's go to the fifth.
00:07Saying you're okay when you're really not okay.
00:09Oh yeah, I do that a lot.
00:11Again, you get the pattern, parang the same root siya eh, na ayaw ko na away kasi sabihin
00:16ko na okay na lang ako.
00:18Or sometimes I also don't understand what I'm feeling so I'll just say okay, para hindi
00:22na lang pag-usapan.
00:23I keep doing that, lalo na if it's the issue is very big, if I keep saying I'm okay when
00:29I'm really not, it's gonna grow bitterness pa rin.
00:32Ito interesante po ito, walkouts.
00:35Walkout, oh, parang when things are too high emotionally, kasi siya, in fairness to him,
00:42pag mataas ng emosyon or medyo tumataas na yung mga boses, he can still think very clearly.
00:47Ako, medyo, dahil we grew up in a very, yung family ko naman, opposite, very diplomatic.
00:52So when emotions are high, I can't think.
00:55So minsan yung escape mechanism ko is to just shut down and walk out.
01:00So I didn't realize din na it's so disrespectful to the person na I'm walking out.
01:05Yung alam mo yung biglang nag-uusap tayo ng mga sinsinan, tas biglang tatayo ako, mukha
01:09wala.
01:10Di ba parang nakakabastos din?
01:11So hindi ko din nakita yung side na yun.
01:14False accusations and insecurities, anong ibig sabihin mo ito?
01:17Okay, there's a story there eh, yun parang ano eh, I think it's a girl thing.
01:23I think the story in the book was parang tatlo kami nag-uusap and then they were talking
01:28about the topic na hindi ako makapasok.
01:31And even before I would even try, I wouldn't even try to go into the conversation, I just
01:37suddenly assume na eh, di sige kayo nalang mag-uusap, alam mo yung gano'n, without even
01:41thinking na eh, dun sila nagkoconnect.
01:45And I'm very welcome to join the conversation and ask questions if I would only try, but
01:50I didn't at the time.
01:51Kasi nga, pinasukan na ako ng insecurities and the false accusation there was like, ah,
01:56ayaw nyo akong kasama, adi huwag.
01:59Parang gano'n.
02:00At saka nag-especulate ka na.
02:02Yeah, without confirming.
02:04Without confirming.
02:05Dito naman, from anger to self-pity.
02:07Puro ako.
02:08Puro ikaw.
02:09Mayroong problema dito.
02:10No, yeah.
02:11So, I noticed, we noticed, kasi he's very good with determining patterns.
02:18Okay.
02:19I'm not used to confrontation, and he is more used to confrontation than me.
02:24So, he would also, when emotions are not high, na-explain niya, oh, ito yung pattern mo,
02:28gano'n, gano'n.
02:29So, one of the patterns that he saw was, bagalimbawa, may argument, eh, may point ako, I'd really
02:35argue it, na, rrr, gano'n.
02:37So, parang akong leon.
02:38And then, suddenly, when he would prove me wrong, biglang, the super anger, biglang akong
02:46to self-pity, na, I'm so wrong, eh.
02:48So, extremes.
02:49Parang, hindi ba pwedeng, dun ka na lang sa gitna, kung mali ka, ah, okay, mali ako,
02:54but I still love you, and, you know, doesn't make me a bad person, but I'm wrong.
02:58Parang gano', parang he's teaching me to be in the middle.
03:15I'm wrong.