Positive Parenting expert Ria Campos-Lopez empowers parents with tips on how to set boundaries with love and understanding.
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00:00 How do I set clear rules, boundaries, and expectations without being too harsh?
00:05 Well, the first thing is we want to set these expectations and boundaries when we're in
00:10 a good mood, no?
00:12 We have to make sure that we talk to our children beforehand, not when we're mad or upset.
00:18 Let me use an example.
00:19 In the moment our child throws a tantrum, starts screaming, right?
00:24 Maybe didn't get the toy that they wanted.
00:26 I want that toy.
00:28 Our reaction is to shout.
00:29 So before we do the correction or before we try to show our child that, okay, what you're
00:34 doing is wrong, we have to go to the first level, which is connection.
00:39 We need to connect with our children before we correct them.
00:43 So connecting to them means understanding that they have a big emotion.
00:47 We might want to validate the actual emotion.
00:51 Like I see you're really angry, right?
00:53 I know you're upset.
00:54 And we want to wait for them to calm down.
00:56 And once they're calmed down, ideally, I would have also had the time to calm down.
01:01 And at that point, that's when we want to repeat the boundary or limit.
01:05 It's also in the timing.
01:07 We want to have these moments where we're calm, where we connect with them before we
01:11 go into the correction and trying to fix the behavior.
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