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Do you struggle with flirting because you're afraid of getting rejected? Don't worry, you're not alone! Many people fear rejection when it comes to expressing their romantic interest.
In this video, we'll give you 7 subtle flirting tips that will help you feel more confident and less afraid of rejection. These tips are designed to help you express your interest in a subtle, non-threatening way that will make you feel more comfortable and confident.

So if you're ready to take your flirting game to the next level, hit that play button and join us for this fun and informative video. And if you find this information helpful, don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe to our channel for more helpful videos on dating and relationships.
Source: Psych2Go
Transcript
00:00 Let's cut to the chase.
00:01 Does flirting actually work?
00:03 Psychologists would say very much so.
00:05 In fact, according to an article by self-help blogger
00:08 and psychology writer, Eric Barker,
00:11 research has proven that flirting
00:13 and signaling your availability to someone
00:15 is a better predictor of romantic interest
00:17 than attractiveness.
00:19 Generally characterized by specific gestures,
00:21 body language, and direct or indirect social cues,
00:25 sex educator and relationship coach, Kelly Gonsalves,
00:28 defines flirting as any method you use
00:31 to signal to someone that you find them interesting
00:33 and want to engage with them further.
00:36 Usually a fun and lighthearted activity
00:37 between two people who find each other attractive
00:40 and flirting should feel good for both parties involved
00:43 and spark feelings of curiosity and excitement.
00:45 With that said, if you want to let someone know
00:48 you're interested in them,
00:49 but your fear of rejection is stopping you
00:51 from saying it outright, don't worry.
00:53 Here are seven subtle and psychology-backed ways to flirt.
00:57 Number one, flirtatious facial expressions.
01:01 Because it's often more socially acceptable
01:02 for men to make the first move,
01:04 women tend to flirt mainly through facial expressions
01:07 and other nonverbal cues.
01:09 Psychologist, Jeremy Nicholson,
01:11 states that some of the most common examples of these
01:14 include turning your head to one side,
01:16 tilting your chin down slightly,
01:18 tossing your hair over your shoulder,
01:20 and biting your lip while smiling.
01:22 As for men, number two, smile slowly.
01:28 While it's not unheard of for men to follow
01:30 a few of the same flirty facial expressions as women,
01:32 according to psychologist and professor
01:34 at California State University, Dr. Pamela Reagan,
01:37 smiling is the single most effective
01:40 and most universal method to convey romantic interest.
01:43 To be more specific, when a man smiles slowly at a woman,
01:48 it's less likely to be mistaken
01:50 as just a casual smile of friendliness.
01:53 Number three, brief glances.
01:56 Similar to the last point,
01:57 glancing briefly at someone only to look away
02:00 is another subtle but well-known flirting technique
02:03 often done by both genders.
02:05 In Dr. Pamela Reagan's book, "Close Relationships,"
02:08 she writes that doing so indicates preferential attention
02:11 and is a clear sign of positive romantic intentions.
02:14 So if you wanna flirt with someone but fear rejection,
02:17 just steal a few glances at them
02:19 from time to time until they notice.
02:22 Number four, feather-light touch.
02:26 Still, self-help expert, Eric Barker,
02:29 insists that the flirting technique
02:31 that works better than anything else is a simple touch.
02:35 But don't worry, you don't have to invade
02:37 someone's personal space
02:38 and worry about making them uncomfortable with your touch
02:40 just to let them know you're interested.
02:43 There are some ways of flirting through subtle touch,
02:45 such as a light brush against their shoulder or forearm,
02:49 a lingering hand on their waist,
02:50 or casually touching their hair.
02:53 Number five, mind your appearance.
02:56 Another great but subtle way of flirting with someone
02:58 is to be more mindful of your appearance
03:00 when you're around them.
03:01 And no, that doesn't mean always checking the mirror
03:03 while they're talking to you,
03:04 because that may make you seem vain and uninterested.
03:09 But simply making a bit of extra effort
03:11 to look nice for them and yourself,
03:14 think a fine hairstyle or some nice new clothes.
03:18 Psychologist, Jeremy Nicholson, categorizes this
03:20 as a physical way of flirting,
03:22 along with practicing attractive body language
03:24 and using touch to build attraction,
03:26 like what we talked about earlier.
03:28 Number six, tickle their funny bone.
03:31 Speaking of the different flirting styles,
03:32 another one is the playful flirting style,
03:35 wherein the goal is more about having fun
03:37 than trying to start a relationship.
03:39 In an article from "Psychology Today,"
03:41 Dr. Nicholson stated that playful flirts
03:43 know how to keep people interested
03:45 by showing off their fun-spirited personality
03:47 and great sense of humor.
03:49 So if all else fails, you can always try your luck
03:52 tickling the other person's funny bone.
03:54 Always try to make them laugh
03:55 and finding ways to have fun with them,
03:57 to let them know your true feelings.
03:59 Number seven, be more yourself.
04:02 Finally, but perhaps most importantly,
04:05 as cliche as it sounds,
04:06 being your authentic self with someone you like
04:09 is a great way to flirt with them.
04:11 Why?
04:11 Well, according to dating coach, Clara Artswager,
04:15 thinking, "Okay, how do I flirt better?"
04:17 I think this is the very thing that kills our ability
04:20 to have that kind of interaction.
04:22 Instead, she suggests that we approach flirting
04:25 by being more ourselves and feeling more at ease
04:27 with ourselves around the person we like.
04:30 And with this, we'll come to a winning sense of confidence
04:33 that can draw people in
04:34 and make them more interested in you.
04:36 In summary, successful flirting starts
04:38 with a friendly and inviting approach,
04:40 engaging conversations, social interactions,
04:43 and a mutual physical and emotional attraction
04:45 towards one another.
04:47 Still, psychologists and relationship experts
04:49 such as Artswager do maintain
04:51 that because flirting is so personal,
04:53 there is no single foolproof way
04:55 that will work for everybody on everybody.
04:58 So aside from following these empirically-based tips,
05:00 it's also important that you work on being more at ease
05:03 with yourself and around the person you like.
05:06 Have fun when you flirt.
05:07 Try to make some sparks fly
05:08 and see where it goes from there.
05:10 Be sure to let us know some of your own personal ways
05:13 to subtly flirt in the comments down below.

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